On the subject of Romance

I am becoming quite put out with people who either

a) demand to know why on earth it is that I do not have a boyfriend (being in such extreme old age)

or b) think they are completely serious about a member of the opposite sex in a romantic manner when they have not only done the EXACT SAME THING with another just a short time before, but they will likely be completely over said person within a month.



For the type "a" people:

I am not in a relationship with a guy because I firmly believe that relationships should be more than slightly serious.
God hasn’t sent me a young man who is seriously considering marriage just yet, and so there’s absolutely no point for me to cavort about with any other young man simply because I want a boyfriend. It could, just maybe, also be that I am simply not quite ready for a serious relationship.

And this brings me to the second group.

I think the type "b" people frustrate, sadden, and confuse me the most.

Example:

Susie likes Johnny. Johnny likes Susie. Susie and Johnny start dating. Susie calls Johnny her “Johnny Dear” and Johnny calls her his “Darling”. Two months later, it’s over.

Three months later, Johnny likes Mary and Mary likes Johnny. Mary calls Johnny her “Teddy Bear”, and Johnny calls Mary his “Darling”. A month later, it’s over.

Repeat process at least six times.

It confuses me because I wonder how on earth Johnny manages to refer to TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT GIRLS as “darling”. Yes, I realize girls do the exact same thing, but I’m making a point. The term of endearment isn’t so much the issue as it is the fact that Johnny is putting his arm around, holding hands with, and likely kissing Mary the EXACT SAME WAY HE DID SUSIE. It demonstrates a complete lack of respect for Mary (and vice versa for Johnny). The party is lead to believe that he or she is completely unique and all the world to a particular person when he/she really isn't. How does a person go from being totally unique to totally non-unique in two-three months???

Anyone else slightly confused?

It frustrates me because it encourages a lack of commitment, a feeding of pride, and a lack of self control.

I mention pride for the following reason: Girls love to be able to boast about the guy who cares for them, guys love to brag to all the other guys about how great his girl is. It’s pride in an ownership. The ownership factor is completely natural.
The unnatural part is the fact that the parties involved have multiple ownerships before the final ownership. It's like buying a used car. The car has already been through mutliple ownerships. Sometimes, scars like a cigarette stain, or a spilled coke stain from previous owners remain on the vehicle despite all the efforts of the dealer to remove them. The same thing happens with people. The scars remain from previous relationships. All because the pride, the need to say somehow that "I am better/loved/needed/etc because I have a significant other" wouldn't be shaken. I say "wouldn't" because it could, and it can be shaken, but the decision was made to permit it.



Lack of commitment occurs when said guy and girl break-up. They simply don't want to put the time and effort into the relationship to get it to work. I think that's pretty self-explanatory.


Lack of self-control happens because both guys and girls seem to have a problem with keeping a tight rein on what they will and will not do before marriage. When I see young people dating at the age of fourteen, I see serious self-control problems. THERE IS NO POINT!!
When I see college-age and older people dating just for the heck of it, I see serious self-control problems.

Dating, courting, I don't care what you call it, is for the purpose of a culmination. It is intended to culminate in marriage. That IS the point.

If you’re just going to break up anyway, why do it to begin with?

Sure, dating's fun, getting to know a member of the opposite sex with a romantic notion in mind is always fun. It was DESIGNED to be fun. After all, it wouldn't be so common if it wasn't fun, right? But I would suggest that not having a point in dating (or whatever you want to call it) and doing it just for the fun of it, is like going to a dealership and test-driving a brand new Thunderbird just for the thrill of it and not even thinking about buying the car.


Finally folks, it saddens me because when a person becomes so accustomed to being emotionally involved with another person and then terminating that attachment with ease, we cease to treat each other as human flesh and blood. There is no consideration for the other party. I see people deliberately attach themselves to another individual, and then, for almost no real reason at all, they detach. From what I've seen, the first couple of times are really difficult.

But, like everything else in life, practice makes perfect.

Ever wonder why our divorce ratings are so high?


And remember the used car analogy?

What Johnny did with Susie affected the way she treated the guy she dated next, and so forth until she actually got married. What Susie did with Johnny affected the way he treated the girl he dated next, and the girl after that, and the girl after that.


I won't go into the fact that the family is God's institution and that Satan is trying so desparately to destroy it.

It was once said that the way to cut down an entire forrest in a day is to mow them down before they become trees.



Why do we make it so easy??